~*random*~
suddenly feel like i have alot to talk about.. cause i think through quite alot of things.. so here i am...
hmm... ok.. maybe talk about today first? hmm... study study study.. haix.. feel that i had done quite alot today.. tomorrow have to continue.. hmm...
ok.. came home late.. hmm.. went to esplanade again? haas.. and before i left, someone shoot me with some questions and i start to think...
declaration.. not sad, not unhappy, not angry, just thinking and abit worried.. for you and for myself?
firstly.. what kind of person am i?
i am someone who dont really know what is the reason that i am doing a certain thing most of the time.. yet, when i say i know what and why i am doing a certain thing and that i want it done that way, means i really know what is the reason behind it.. and sometimes the reason is just that simple..
i am someone who likes to think alot and think rather negatively.. or should i say super negatively? hmm.. and the slightest hint or slightest thing that someone do or someone say, can make me think and think and think and think.. cause i like to assume too.. i mean, i like to assume that there is a reason why the person say something or do something.. most of the time, i can sense the purpose.. then i will start to wonder whether i guessed correctly or maybe sometime, why is that person doing that thing or said those kind of things?
i am someone who think that other people are just like me, as in, i just assume that they will think and think negatively like the way i do.. especially when people just choose to sit there and stone and start to appear as though they are thinking...
i am someone who sometimes like to act like i dont care.. i mean, i will act as though i dont care who is the person who said certain things but maybe i mind and i care, just that i didnt want to show it out...
hmm.. i am like that..
yet, at the same time, i am someone who is actually quite not decisive.. i mean.. usually i would not want to make a decision if i am not sure of what i want.. when i am dumped with a lot of choices, and i dont mind any single one of them, i will just chose to not decide.. thats me...
hmm.. and i realise one thing, as couples gets older and further on in their lives, there are just more things that they can argue and quarrel over.. so we shall start analysing from the top...
when they first met and got together, everything will start out fine and sweet.. then they wil start to worry and get jealous and things like that and there goes the first argument.. then as they move on and they got used to each other being there for them, they will argue one day when they realised that they the other half is not there for them when they needed them the most.. then there goes the second argument...
then as they move on, and fast forward, there will be just little things that they cannot decide and compromise and give in to each other about.. then they will have small dispute here and there until one day they finally get too heated up and there will usually goes the third argument, which sometimes can actually be the forth or the fifth already as the other 2 mentioned infront can actually happen more than once.. infact all argument can happen more than once...
ok.. so as they move on, some may realise that the other half is not giving them enough attention le.. then they start to fear that the other half is not beingfaithful and fear of losing them. then they will start to doubt and that feeling is not nice.. i mean.. no one will like the other half doubting them so there goes the next argument, is that the forth on the list?
then they grow up and those argument goes on in life.. then come to this day when they maybe decide to settle down? there comes even more argument.. ok.. the fifth on the list.. wedding dates, sixth on the list, the house that they should buy, the seventh on the list, should they spend money on things, or what type of car they should buy, etc.
when they finally get married and settled down furthere more, there comes the eighth argument, which is sometimes rather stupid yet happening in the daily life.. they will start to be unhappy about each others way of living and things like, why you squeeze the toothpaste tube in the centre? will just come out and boom.. argue..
yet one day, they will get used to each other and then there maybe other argument like how many kids that they should have? the maybe the tenth argument will be the way they teach their children and maybe the eleventh will be the school that they want to send their children to.. and maybe the twelveth will be complaining that the other half, be it mother or father, not spending enough time with their kids.. hmm..
ok.. thats a whole lot of arguments le.. and please, for all those mention, there is a high chance of it being repeated.. i mean, it sure will.. so there is actually more things to argue each time.. haas.. oops.. laughing? werid me...
now... those are the things that make life, life and turn those likes and crushes into love.. and there are just so many things that can be avoided.. i mean argument.. being avoided..
when you decide that you want the love to last, make sure that you put in effort...
when you decide that you want that person to be with you forever, make sure you share things with that person.. he or she dont need to be always top on your list, but make sure he or she is not the bottom few..
when you decide that you want to make that special someone happy, make sure that you dont make that person sad by not taking good care of yourself or doing stupid things to hurt yourself.. you never know, sometimes the easier way to make someone happy is just a call, a message, a card, or just something small... you dont need a reason to shower your loved ones with love and care and sometimes gifts...
and dont underestimate a call.. how important is communication? dont let things out only at the last minute when things are already on the verge of coming to and end and just before that volcanoe erupt, you let out all those unhappy things.. do you think that helps? NO.. so whatever unhappy things or things that you do not agree with, let it out... i mean.. tell it to your other half as soon as possible...
hmm.. now.. let me think of my future? those basic and common questions..
how big must your house be?
hmm.. it can be small and cosy... it can be big and comfy.. shouldnt i be discussin that with my other half in the future when the time comes? since it is a house that belong to both of us?
how big must your family car be?
is there really a need for a car? hmm.. discuss...
how many children do you want to have?
erm, anything, but i think definitely not just 1.. i mean, i dont want my child to be so lonely at home. yet, another thing that should be discussed with my other half, i am not the only looking after them right?
work or be housewife?
hmm.. discuss...
oh.. whatever.. type until i sian liao.. cause even if you continue, you will just realise that all of the things in the end will end up with discussing with your the other half cause they will be in your life..
`love brings them into your life and make them part of your life..
`love teaches you how to appreciate them just the way they are and teaches you how to give and take..
`love made the other half part of your life
`love is something that no matter how old you are, you still need to learn.. learn how to love someone the right, the better or even the best way...
`love is just something that makes life, life
`yet love is also something that comes along with life...
so what is life without love and will there even be love if there is no life?
hmm.. does everything make sense? haas..
and that is just love.. C=
~*smiles*~
~*what will my future be like?*~
~*lead me there?*~
~* C= *~
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